“I can’t afford it” and 5 other bogus reasons Christians don’t tithe

5 minute read

I still remember like it was yesterday.

I was 16 years old sitting in my youth group on a Wednesday night when my youth pastor began to do what he always did at that point of the service. He grabbed an offering bucket and began to walk around the half circle of chairs laid out in the small room.

When he got to me, he stood and waited for me to put something in, I hadn’t given much thought to my offering that night, and I certainly wasn’t prepared to give anything so I reached into my pocket hoping to find a few dollar bills to throw in the bucket. I was out of luck, no cash only a few coins, so I shuffled them around and gathered them together to give in the offering. My youth pastor did something no one had ever done, and I’ve never seen done since. He looked at me and said, “Keep it. God doesn’t want your spare change.” A preacher turning down an offering, go figure.

The Best Way to Have More Of Your Prayers Answered

2 minute read

Recently I bought a new car, a 2008 Maroon Ford Escape. I’m sure this has happened to you too, but after I purchased the Escape I see other cars exactly like mine everywhere!

I never noticed maroon Ford Escapes before mine, but now I can’t not see them. I’m not crazy, it’s neuroscience, it’s called “The Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon” coined by Alan Bellows.

An Inconvenient Jesus

Why losing is winning and dying is living

5 minute read

I have a friend. She’s in love with a man who is the father of her children. They’ve been together for longer than most married couples I know, but they’re not married.

You wouldn’t know they weren’t married unless you asked or saw their driver’s licenses with different last names. They live together, have children together, and share a bank account, but they aren’t married because if they tied the knot, she would lose all of her government subsidies. I know what you’re thinking, you’re probably picturing a lazy, entitled woman who doesn’t want to get married so she can keep getting free groceries but buy her kid’s expensive tennis shoes and iPhones, but that’s not true. The government covers her medical insurance since, technically, she’s a single mom, and the medical costs of her child with special needs is several thousand dollars a month. There’s no way she could afford the cost on her own.

Breakfast for Dinner and Why Good Behavior is Overrated.

6 minute read

This may come as a shock to you, but Jesus is not as concerned about your moral behavior as you think He is.

I’ve never seen anyone have a genuine relationship with God, and not change for the better over time, but behavior modification was not the reason God sent Jesus to die on the cross.

How To Avoid Drama In Your Life

1 minute read

Have you ever known someone who talked about how much they hated drama, but somehow they are always right in the middle of it? 

What Does God’s Voice Sound Like?

4 Truths About Hearing God’s Voice

4 minute read

I heard an interview recently about how the creators of Zumba came up with the name.

The dancing workout routine was originally called “RumbaSize,” but since they couldn’t copyright the name they were forced to think of something different.

The Difference Between Hope and Confidence (and why you need more confidence)

4 minute read

Kristen and Robert Lopez won an Academy Award in 2014 for their song “Let It Go” from the mega blockbuster movie Frozen.

If you have small children, you’ve probably only seen it 1000 times and know the song by heart. “Let It Go” sold more than 10 million copies in 2014, but what’s easily forgotten is the fact that seventeen songs they wrote didn’t make the cut.

The Difference Between Falling and Failing

3 minute read

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

There is a scene I love in the movie, Remember the Titans. Based on a true story, a team of high school football players who were forced to desegregate schools, overcome adversity and win every game until the state championship.

God Works in Different Ways

3 minute read

It’s tempting to think spiritual growth happens like a factory line. If you listen to enough sermons and read enough books, you will believe there are seven steps to spiritual maturity, but that’s what can be so frustrating about Jesus.

Detours, Humility, and God’s Grace

3 minute read

I’m convinced there are two roadmaps God uses when He decides to do something great with a life.

There’s the direct path that sees results quickly, and there is the detour. We love the direct path, but God usually likes to take us on the detour, because that’s where He teaches lessons that can’t be learned any other place. The detour is usually where God sends his students to school to teach them how much they don’t know. I’ve been enrolled for 15 years, and I’m still a few credits short.

There’s a trend with most of the people God used greatly in the Bible. Almost every time God showed up to give them the plan they responded back with some form of “I can’t do it.” Their excuses were because they came from a small family or lacked the ability, but no matter the reason, it seems like God consistently chose to use people who doubted themselves. I didn’t.

When I started pastoring, I was convinced I would accomplish all of my goals by 30. My whole life I was told how talented I was, and I believed it. I was never dumb enough to say it out loud, but God was lucky to have me on his team. With my ability and his help we were going to accomplish great things, or so I thought. I cringe now when I think about how arrogant I was. I started pastoring when I was 24 years old; which only furthered my arrogance. I remember telling my dad all the things I would accomplish quickly. He told me, “Jason, don’t get in a hurry, pastoring is hard.” Without thinking, I responded, “I’m sure it is for some guys dad, but I know what I’m doing.”

The truth is, my pride should have disqualified me from ministry on day one, but God was gracious. He knew some time on the detour would teach me the lessons I needed to learn. My detour was a street named failure.

3 1/2 years into pastoring I had shrunk the church in half. We had a few small successes, but almost every idea I had failed. I couldn’t understand it. Frustration and doubt we’re taking over. Like rubbing alcohol to a cut, God was having to get the infection out, and it stung. Finally, one day I met a friend for lunch. We talked about the church and things we were frustrated about, and I said to him, “I think I broke the church. I’m serious I think I broke it, and I don’t know how to fix it.” That may have been the first time in my life I had used the phrase “I don’t know how.” I was starting to learn the lesson God was teaching.

A few days later I walked into our auditorium and spent some time praying in the altar. I can take you to the exact spot I was sitting, I’ll never forget my prayer that day. I had prayed obligatory prayers before about “needing God’s help” and I knew at some level I did, but for the first time in my life, distraught and humbled, I said to God, “God, I don’t know what I’m doing, and if you don’t help me I’m not going to make it.” That was the first day of the rest of my life.

I can’t prove it, but I think the reason God’s plan for Joseph included slavery and prison was because he was a cocky 17-year-old kid who couldn’t wait for his family to bow down to him. But after 22 years when his family showed back up he wept and said, “It was God.”

Moses was convinced he knew how to save the people, so he murdered an Egyptian soldier. He spent the next 40 years on a desert detour, and finally, when God showed up and told him it was time to deliver the people, Moses said “I can’t.”

King David said about God, “The sacrifice you desire is a broken spirit.”

That’s what detours do to you. They humble you. They break your spirit. That must be why God uses them so effectively, and I’m glad He does.