Digital Devotion: When You Find The Donkey Donkeys You’ll Find Your Destiny

1 Samuel 9:5-6

3 minute read

1 Samuel 9:5-6
“Saul said to his servant, “Let’s go home. By now my father will be more worried about us than about the donkeys!” But the servant said, “I’ve just thought of something!

In 1954 a milkshake salesman named Ray Krok was traveling the country trying to sale his “Milk Shake Multi-Mixer.” Sales were plummeting, so it got Ray’s attention when a burger stand in San Bernadino California purchased eight of his multi-mixers.

The World Needs Less Will Ferrels

Why sarcasm is for suckers

3 minute read

The other day a buddy of mine sent a group text to me and another guy that said, “I love you guys.”

I stared at the phone for a few seconds a little rattled; I wasn’t sure how to respond. Obviously, the appropriate response was, “love you too.” And if we had been face to face I would have had no problem saying “I love you” back, but for whatever reason, at this moment texting “I love you” to another dude was intimidating. It felt like the equivalent of sending heart and kiss face emojis.

4 Ways To Keep Your Kids From Killing Your Sex Life

Why your spouse is more important than your children

5 minute read

It’s ironic, isn’t it? According to God, you should abstain from sex until you’re married, and then after marriage have as much sex as you want, but for many people, we reverse the order and have lots of sex before marriage and gradually stop having sex after we say “I Do.” Why do we do that?

What Sex-Ed Didn’t Teach You: The Implications Of Sex Outside of Marriage

4 minute read

Have you ever argued about something because you felt like you were supposed to but the whole time you’re thinking to yourself, “I don’t think I agree with my argument?”

There are certain things in life we are conditioned to fight for or against, but if we were to take a moment, remove all of our preconceived ideas, and all of our preferences for fairness, we might see the truth we so adamantly oppose.

You’re Not A Failure: A Message To The Wandering Millennial

5 minute read

Dear Millennial, there’s a decent chance you won’t read this because you ditched Facebook when you’re parents set up an account and you don’t check your email, but in the event you somehow get this message, I have something important I want to tell you.

Your Husband Can Change But You Can’t Change Him

The reason your words matter even when you feel like they don’t.

7 minute read

“Stop telling people who they are and start telling people who they are becoming.” – Bob Goff

I wish what I’m about to tell you wasn’t true. I wish it only represented the minority of marriages I counsel on a weekly basis, but sadly I’m about to describe a gut-wrenching truth, an epidemic really.

How I went from a night owl to waking up at 5am

4 minute read

“Every time you hit the snooze button you are delaying your dreams 9 minutes at a time” – Mark Batterson

I remember hearing older men talking about their inability to sleep in, and I would think, “not me! I’ve never had that problem!” If you would’ve tried to tell me that one day I would wake up at 5 am by choice and enjoy it, I would have laughed at your stupidity.

The Decision More Important Than Your New Years Resolutions

2 minute read

2016 is coming to a close, which means it’s time to look ahead to 2017 and dream.

Dreaming is fun. Everyone loves to imagine less weight, more muscles, less debt, or more money, and that’s what makes new years resolutions so exciting. The chance something we don’t like about yourself could change sends adrenaline through your veins.

The Reason You Think You’re Mad Is Not Really The Reason You’re Mad

1 minute read

Sometimes I’m upset and I don’t know why. Other times I’m upset and I think I know why.

I’m learning for every negative emotion like anger, sadness, and depression, there’s a deeper reason hidden deep in my heart and the only way to discover it is to ask questions that make me dig for deeper answers. It’s alot easier to blame other people for my problems or blame them for my anger, but the truth is I’m usually mad at you because I’m mad at me.

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A few years ago I was venting to a friend and he explained a concept called the “5 Whys.” It’s a simple exercise, but isn’t for the faint of heart, because once you decide to use the “5 whys” you have to take responsibility for yourself and your emotions and stop blaming someone else. By asking the “5 why’s” somewhere around answer #4 you’ll start getting to the truth. However, this only works if you’re brutally honest with yourself, which means it may take some time to find the answer the deeper you go. Here is how it works.

Get a piece a paper and a pen and at the top of the paper write down this question, “Why am I upset?” For example, “Why am I upset I didn’t get a raise?” or “Why am I upset my airplane flight is delayed?” or “Why am I upset Donald Trump is President?” Whatever you’re angry about write the answer underneath at the top of the page. Now ask yourself “why?” at least 5 times.

Keep asking “why?” until you get to the real issue.The problem is not something they did to me, the problem is something in me.